Did you know that friends can help you live longer? It's true! Good friends usually discourage unhealthy behaviors. A good friendship can also help fight off depression and boost self-esteem. A friend is your support system that you go to for advice and to talk over life's issues.
Also, as people get older they become more selective with who they spend their time with. Think of this process as "trimming the fat". Get rid of any negative influences around you. Surround yourself with positive, uplifting and caring people who add to your life, put a smile on your face and not a worry in your heart.
We're SUPPOSED to be happy and excited about the holidays, right? What are you supposed to if this time of year brings up bad feelings?
Is there tension over where your family spends time? Do you dread being around a certain friend or family member because of a past fight, or problem?
Feelings and emotions do tend to run high in the midst of this busy time of year. Here are some things you can do to try to minimize the explosions and enjoy yourself more:
1. Settle on Plans - sit down with your immediate family and discuss how you want to spend the holidays. Also talk about what things bring you worry and concern. Make sure to find time on your calendar for all the things that are truly important to your family. Be prepared to say, (without guilt) "sorry, we can't make it...our calendar is full," when needed.
2. Talk it Out - take time now to get in touch with the person you need to talk with about any specific concerns. As difficult as it may seem, addressing the issue head on and as early as possible is best for everyone. For example, if your mother-in-law knows now that this year, you'll visit their house in the afternoon on Chirstmas Eve, but will be back home in time to have some family time with the kids before they fall asleep, she has more time to adjust to the change, and make the most of it.
3. Focus on Stress Management - when you have your priority list together, it will be easier for you to chip away at what you need to do to make those things happen. Make sure to cross all of that off your list before you even think about adding adding anything else on. This is a very important time of year to make sure to take the time you need to care for yourself physically and emotionally.
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